Whose Fault Is It?

The Blame Game is one that we all seem to pick up on early in life.

If you are a parent, how many times have you heard the phrase “Well, she started it!” “He hit me first!”?

My personal favorite from growing up was when my younger sisters were in a car together and one screamed “She keeps breathing on me!!” 😊

When something doesn’t go our way – we blame someone else.

When our feelings get hurt – we blame someone else.

When life doesn’t go turn out the way we had planned – we blame someone else.

At what point do we learn to take responsibility for our feelings and actions?

We are in a precarious time right now. If you hop on social media or any news report, you will hear a multitude of opinions as to whom you should be blaming for the current situation.

What satisfaction is gained from blame?

I think it fulfills one of our basic needs, to be right. If we can find someone else to blame, then we are not in the wrong necessarily because it wasn’t our fault – we are rightfully wrong.

The other thing blaming does is that it keeps us from being accountable. It is hard to suck up our pride and put it out there that we might have made a mistake or not taken the advice that would have kept us from this situation or allowed our hurt feelings to get the best of us.

But what about when it really isn’t our fault?

It is crappy to be a part of someone else’s consequences – when a spouse gambles away all the family’s savings and you are left with nothing. Or when a drunk driver plows into your car, leaving you disabled for life. Or when the government mandates a Shelter In that devastates our economy and our education system.

We all have a choice at this very moment. We can spend our time blaming anyone and everyone for where we are right now, or we can figure out how we are going to move forward.

Choosing to continue to play the Blame Game will keep you in a downward spiral that is tough to get out of.

I don’t have your answers, but I am willing to help you work through your choices and decisions. Please reach out to me if you want to talk about it.

<>< KC